Do you believe fights in relationships are healthy? Sometimes, do you feel closer to your mate after a fight? Is that your relationship getting stronger?
Take for example, the old clich? about make-up sex. Everyone knows that sex is always better after you have just made up from a fight. Why is that? Is it because of the relief you feel of getting over something emotionally? Is it a way to take out the anger and frustration you feel you couldn?t explain, in a passionate way? Or maybe it?s something chemical, your pumping adrenaline, or something more that leads to an overall better sexual experience.Whatever it is, you are not alone in that feeling, as the term ?make-up sex? has become a common household phrase over the last several decades.
How about the healthiness of an argument itself?do you believe that it does a relationship good to have a fight now and again? A recent article in the Wall Street Journal talks a little about the effects of fighting on a couple?s relationship and comes to the conclusion that it?s good to fight. And I am sure we can agree that there is a better way, instead of fighting. Talking calmly and rationally is always more constructive and helpful that insulting, screaming, cursing or getting physical. And this article stresses just that, that there are ways to fight that can completely destroy a relationship.
A good fight, where partners are fair and right with each other, can actually helps a couple have a better relationship. Emotionally, this may be true, but it?s important to know that it?s never really healthy to argue in the first place. Sure, a good argument is the lesser of two evils, but an argument is still an argument, raising your stress to levels that it doesn?t need to be at, causing friction between you and your partner, and establishing a rift in your relationship. Arguing also releases cortisol, which is bad.
Some of the negative effects of fighting in a relationship include:
impaired cognitive function
blood sugar imbalance
decreased bone density
decreased muscle tissue
increased fat
lower immunity
So, you need to keep in mind that arguing can be the tip of the iceberg. There can be something behind it and underneath it that can be causing a severe problem that we don?t even know about. It?s important for our bodies to be harmonious. Our relationships should reflect the harmony that we feel and we should feel comforted in the person that we share a bed with, instead of stressed. They should bring life to you, not take it away from you.
Like with Newton Mechanics, we have to understand that there is more than what we see. The body needs to be coordinated and work in conjunction and when we are always arguing, it suggests that there is something else there that is keeping us out of balance. It?s important to be checked physically, it?s important to look at bigger problems and bigger solutions, be they physical or mental. If you feel the need to fight, it may be because something is out of balance, and you?re body needs to be in balance to be healthy.
Moreover, apply the theory of Quantum Mechanics to your life. Everything has a connection and wave that cannot be ignored. In medicine, it means that you can?t always be treated with pills. In relationships, it can mean that there is more than meets the eye. Find out what it is in order to find peace, health and love in your life.